Posted by ubergeeke on July 23rd, 2008 in blogpost 1 Comment »
[Last week, I frantically begged amberella to send me a bit of info about the Last H.O.P.E. Conference in NYC. Luckily for me, she did! Here is a special guest post for .51 from amberella about her experiences at the Last H.O.P.E. Be sure to visit her website at http://idiosyncratic-routine.com/ as well!]
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Hacking the Boy’s Club
by amberella
First, let’s answer the question on most readers’ minds: Yes, there were women at The Last HOPE, even “attractive” ones! Some were your requisite, old-school geeks, some goth chicks, some professors, some militant/cyberpunks, some “normals,” etc., etc., etc… but yes, they (we) rolled in all shapes and sizes and were clearly interested in every aspect of the conference. I didn’t notice a particular skewing of female attendees towards one style of talk or another, nor see them disenfranchised from asking questions or gaining access to workspace. Remarkably enough, people treated each other like… people. It was, in a word: Refreshing.
This bowl-o-cherries sentiment isn’t without its caveats. On the one hand, I generally find that in professional (i.e. regulated or accountability-imposed) IT-focused environments, when women seem smart, competent, and unapologetic, men are usually reasonably comfortable conversing with them as “just one of the boys,” or as I’ve noted above, “a person.” Most interactions at HOPE were of this type, and therefore not all that surprising. Several presenters even mentioned the desire to include women in their area of interest, which was outright encouraging. Other interactions of a more social nature, though, constituted a veritable theater of the absurd.
Case in point: HOPE set aside part of the mezzanine for lounging in hammocks and watching video streamed from the talks for those who wanted a break or who were overflow from packed conference rooms. Across the bottom of this video was a scrolling marquee of comments pulled from a specially rigged up internal URL. This meant the crowd could watch and participate in a real-time chat, anonymously, with other people in the room. I happened to walk into the rest area looking to take a much needed nap during Steven Rambam’s presentation, glanced at the screen, and saw the message trolling news-ticker style:
“Rambam sucks. I want three hours of my life back“. …Funny.
Then: “Who’s the new girl in the red shirt?“ Look down at self: I was wearing a red shirt.
A few seconds later: “I like her more than the other girl in the red shirt.“ Uh, what?
Then: “I’m faithful to Red Shirt Girl #1 … I’ll take you on long walks on the beach and……” You get the picture.
I laughed and brushed it off and found a hammock. After failing to elicit a response from the women in the room (there was also “Gray Tank Top Girl” and later “Necktie Girl” in addition to me and my other red shirt counterpart) the intensity of the messages increased. I’ll spare you the details of the ensuing message thread, most of which was LOL-worthy in a purely adolescent and self deprecating way, but I will say that some of it was downright vulgar. I’m not one to flinch at vulgarity or abstain from [frequent] obscenity, but when still no women took the bait, there was an eventual message of “You won’t say anything until I rape you and then you will cry.“ I assume it was meant as a joke or incitement, but I think we all know that making rape funny is right up there with making Hitler funny: Imminent Fail. Rather than be outraged, I ignored the comment and eventually joined in the conversation, since I can make quips with the best of them and I rarely give up an opportunity to make a crowd laugh. I guess I won over the audience, since at some point the message scrolled “Red Shirt Girl #2 was epic.“ …Pretty high praise from that crowd.
I document this conversation in grueling detail because it was indicative, to me, of the problems male-female interactions take on when hardcore-geek guys settle into their comfort zone. Add in a layer of anonymity and many of them revert to aggressive behavior they would never enact in a face-to-face or professional setting. The “Lamest Post” award from the scrolling message incident has to be awarded to the statement “Are you female? Are you an attention whore? Go to HOPE!” as though any woman at the conference was dying to be the object of the message sender’s affections. I admit, I took the bait and replied, “Are you at HOPE? Are you female? Prepare to receive undue amounts of attention for breathing!” It was no surprise that after calling out the ridiculousness of said statement, the chatter subtly shifted back to Steve Rambam’s speech, which offered no shortage of fodder for hilarity.
The presenter of “From Black Hat to Black Suit: How to Climb the Corporate Security Ladder without Losing Your Soul,” Myrcurial, made more than one plea for women to enter the CISO (Corporate Information Security Officer) career track. He also explained how important it is for all CISO hopefuls to keep up with technology on their own time and participate in the community. Aye, here lies the rub. Time and again I have found that the more heavily male-dominated or niche oriented the topic, the more hostile the atmosphere in which said topic is discussed. The more hostile the atmosphere, the more women are dissuaded from joining the conversation and becoming valued contributors. Rinse and repeat.
How is it that as an increasing number of women graduate with Computer Engineering and other technical or hard science degrees and girl-geek culture explodes thanks to New Media™, that there is not a commensurate increase in women’s contributions to the hardcore techie and hacker community? It’s no longer difficult to find women espousing their love of iPhone apps and digg.com – the problem is finding those that want to infiltrate the realms of bug trackers, penetration testers, and the corporate suites reserved for CTOs and CISOs. The culture continues to be one where all but the most serious, “thick-skinned” women, even those with enough drive to end up working in a professional IT capacity, find an existence that can be highly technology driven, but that stops short of membership in the elite circles that evolve or hack that tech.
As demonstrated on a very small scale by my eventual acceptance into the “scrolling message quip makers club” at HOPE, it’s possible to muscle into the boys’ club with tenacity, spunk, and a heavy dose of ignore-the-troll. Women who seek out these communities, though, have to be prepared to fight for the chance to “prove their mettle,” as my grandmother would say. The women at HOPE have already jumped the largest hurdles to inclusion and the majority of male attendees respect them for it, regardless of childish message board antics.
I can think of no quick fix, only that a growing number of tech communities geared towards women offer some refuge and an estuary environment to grow one’s confidence before trying to conquer the “real world,” and that historically, female creep into male dominated realms has been steady, unrelenting, and eventually accepted. In the short term, this offers little consolation.
A spot of hope (no pun intended) for this dreary state of affairs? More than once during the conference I heard the statement, “Women make the best social engineers.”